Abuse
It’s Not Your Fault
Abuse is to misuse another person that
in anyway causes them injury or harm.
If
someone does something to you and it makes you feel all dirty inside or
empty go with that feeling. Do not make the abuse that is happening to
you your fault. Do not try to make yourself believe that it didn’t
happen or that it wasn’t that bad. If someone does something to
you and it makes you uncomfortable in any way tell an adult that you trust
everything that happened.
No One should ever make you feel small, empty, alone or worthless.
• I don’t understand what I did wrong. She’s telling
me how worthless I am, how I don’t care about anyone else but myself.
How I’m a selfish brat, that I can’t do anything right.
• I am so confused. I’m only 10 years old what have I done
wrong to deserve this?
• She’s my own mother but I feel she doesn’t want me
around. I can’t tell “her” that I love her. Shouldn’t
I be able to?
• I can’t believe I made her feel like crap? I can’t
believe what a bad child she’s convinced me that I am.
• I feel terrible, horrible. But I’m not sure why. I know
I’m not happy, I feel like I hate myself, I feel like “she”
hates me, I feel worthless, like absolutely nothing, alone in a house
of 3 other people. I wish there was something I could do to change this.
It is NEVER okay for an adult to have
sex with a child.
• He was always nice to me. Never threatened or hurt me, and he
give me spending money. He didn’t rape me; at least if he did, my
mind won’t let me remember that.
• Now I’m afraid to tell anyone what I have been letting him
do to me. Therefore it must be my fault!
It is NEVER okay for an adult to touch a child inappropriately or ask
the child to touch them.
• I liked it that he cared about me and although I felt weird, my
body responded.
• Now, not a day goes by that I don’t feel ashamed, cold,
lost, alone, and hopeless.
• When I began to feel that it was wrong, I thought it was too late
to do anything!
It is NEVER okay for an adult to hit a child hard enough to leave a bruise.
• If I were a better son I wouldn’t have been beaten.
• They don’t hit me hard all of the time.
• They are adults so they are allowed to punish me.
• It’s normal.
If you’re being abused, no
matter how many times it has happened, you can do something now. It is
never too late and it is never your fault! Tell someone that you trust
and stop the abuse!
Jessica
It's not
your fault.
I want you to know that no one should
ever make you feel small. Jessica, you should tell someone that you trust
that you need help. Tell your grandma, teacher, friend’s mom, anyone
that you can trust how she treats you. Tell them about what she does that
makes you sad. I am proud of you Jessica and I know that you can do anything
that you want.
Jake
It's not
your fault.
There are a lot of kids that run
away for the same reason that you did. They feel empty inside except for
anger and they have no idea why they have to face the problems that they
are facing. Please tell someone that you need help because horrible things
happen on the streets and you do not deserve to be abused. No one does.
I know that you are a surviver and that you will do the right thing.
Steven
It's not
your fault.
Thank you for sharing your story.
You are older than most of us so it is good to see from someone who has
gone through abuse like us that things can get better. I felt a lot like
they way you described how you felt when I was being abused. Scared, lonely
and empty inside. I thought that people could tell that I was being abused
just by looking at me too. Being abused was all that I thought of even
though I tried never to think about it. Thank you Steven.
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